BAR FOR PERFECT
I was watching a movie, this girl described someone she was seeing as “perfect” and the guy she was talking to said: “I think your bar for perfect is really low”. Bar could mean a rod so let's liken it to a ruler and call it standard (yeah?).
I was discussing with someone about all I had to put up with in relationships (talking about relationships I mean friendships and romantic relationships), she said: “I don't know much as I was not present but what I know is you lowered your standards (bar for perfect is low). I had a deep thought about what she said then I got this point stand out “as much as salt is important in cooking, there are other seasonings that are as important”. I was only looking out for one thing and neglected others. Especially for romantic relationships, I only look out for things people say, what happened to what they do? Yes knowing someone looks spiritual or do some things to show they are is good but don't spirituality involve how they live, how they they apply what they preach? But I didn't take note. Even in friendships, intentions matter. I have at many times lowered my standards despite knowing what I deserve, I make excuses for them. However, I learnt my lessons in a hard way. No one is perfect but there's always perfect in imperfection, so that's why you don't neglect your standards.
Letter to self: Stand tall and let those who can reach your height, do so. DO NOT LOWER YOUR BAR FOR PERFECT. We all have different levels of standards,work with what's fine for you. Your sanity matters! Another one coming up soon.